Dating,Marriage and Dating

DATING, MARRIAGE AND DATING

I am referring to Wikipedia and different other site here because my idea of dating is really exciting and you don't want to know. And if I wrote it this article could never be published.

Dating is a form of courtship, and may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal.(From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)

The main purpose of dating is to find a person that we're attuned with and to marry them.

According to Lynn Lauren “In high school and college dating is about forming new relationship with well-suited partners. Dating is a way to make new friends. You go out with a fitted person and have a great time together. Sometimes there is a great romantic relation;sometimes it doesn't work out.”

“One reason we date is to have fun,relax and get out from whatever we are doing but it has a serious side to it as well.

But another, more useful purpose of dating is to learn what we want in our partner,what we don't want, how to communicate our needs,how to serve the others need without disrespecting ourselves,and what it feels like to love,be loved and even how to be strong enough to part when we know it's time.” says Kara Oh

Love as a feeling is very flimsy even though it's strong and unconditional. It's an action and like every action it also has its consequences. Unlike consequences of other action, consequences of love are sweet and lovable, not necessarily though. Some times they are very dangerous and many life has been lost.

Considering, He/She found the perfect guy for him/her. Or in other words hey found their “the one” , they will eventually get married.

Now,lets talk about Marriage,according to wikipedia

Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture in which it is found. Such a union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding.

People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of commitment.[1][2]

A marriage entails different meanings. While the concept of marriage remain the same across the globe, the way of solemnizing it differs extensively. But mostly it's based on a loving relationship between a man and a woman in which they publicly promise to live together 'for better for worse, for rich for poorer, in sickness and in health until death do them part'.

Society puts so much emphasis on love,and marriage. Society also puts pressure on the female to get married. If a woman is not married by thirty,something is wrong with her,right?Is she dates a lot,then she is a slut and in Chinese society it is even worse. If a woman live with the guy, she is immoral and not a good girl. Isn't that how it goes?

Of course,it's on guys too. But it's not as bad as for woman as far as I have experienced. But there is greater problem for guys, they are supposed to be strong types. So they learn to be “strong,silent type”. Society tells woman to like that kind of guys. And men think that other men who open up say how they feel are a 'woose' and girls think they are 'gay'. And all this has impact on marriage. Marriage plays a crucial role in transferring the culture and civilization from one person to the other.

Again,as I have seen and heard, its actually difficult to last a long and harmonious marriage life. The reality of life,work and family overwhelmed everyone at some point. People start to wonder about the temptation they used to feel about their spouse and how they used to longed for his/her tender touch. You are happily married and settled down. Of course you are in love but the spark of romantic excitement start missing.

And we all can see,the rate of divorce is increasing rapidly. So what should individuals do to keep their marriage sound and safe. The key to successful marriage is love,understanding,mutual respect,trust,commitment and togetherness.

All this points refer back to the starting. Yes, dating. Literally dating means to find a person who is suitable spouse for you. And No,I don't mean you should start dating other girls to keep your marriage. All I mean is one of the most important key for keeping your marriage is starting to date your wife. And yes,i am in no position to give suggestion about marriage but that's what I found out.

“When was the last time you and your spouse went out together -- just the two of you, no kids, no friends, just you and your partner? If you have to pause even for a second to think, that's not good.” says Mrs Lori Palatnik

So I thought of asking Chinese and Foreign couples about the truth behind dating after marriage. And here are the three best answer I got.

“ Don't waste every night with a family or friends where you can't talk. Use your time to draw her out,talk with her,have fun with her,study her like you do the bible.” says a Chinese middle aged man who works for Italian firm and is happily married for 13 years. And he must have thought I am christian which I am not. This is little depressing but Chinese people are little misleaded. They think every foreigner with no beards and mustache are christian which is not true,guys with long beard and mustache are Muslim which is even not close to truth. No disrespect intended to any religion.

“You don't date a woman to marry her and stop dating her.You date a woman to marry her and you date her with more passion and creativity than ever”, said European man who was with his wife and children.

“Men,if you don't date your wife,sooner or later someone else may volunteer for the job” says Greg, Nigerian unmarried young guy. And I definitely agree with him.

Q: What's your best date night tip ,shouldn't be much expensive?